Who am I – I am Helen Lingard
So Who Is Helen Lingard
wow where do I start…
Firstly I am a Loving very Proud Mum to two gorgeous adult children – both have now left home….
So in a sense I’m now FREE – Yay !!
I was raised in a very loving Yorkshire/Welsh family in South Wales…..
my father being a Yorkshire man and my mother being Welsh…
I am the youngest of three girls….
We spent our UK Summer holidays travelling around Europe….
France, Spain, Austria, Switzerland Italy..
yes you name it, I’ve been there..so Yes Very blessed...
However- I never felt I belonged… .
I always felt I was different..
I had friends, but I always felt the ‘outsider’…
Don’t get me wrong – I was very loved,
I have no doubt about that, my feelings were ALL within Me…
no one made me feel any different
After all I know now
‘No One Can Make You Feel
Anything You don’t want to feel’
Even though there was only 2 years (and a bit) between us I always felt like the ‘odd one out’
This wasn’t helped by the fact, I looked Years younger than my sisters..
and come Christmas and birthday
they would get the same present and I would get something different…
lol not actually – but at that time – I didn’t want to be
Any more different than I already felt…
School was horrendous too – I was bullied… didn’t ‘do well at all..
whilst both my sisters excelled at school…
You starting to get the picture ??
So fast forward – I didn’t do well at school, however I did have goals which I went onto achieve…
I set a goal at the age of 12 that I would be a Nurse and so I went on determined, not finding school easy at all but knowing what I needed to achieve… so I went for it…
Becoming a Nurse
Becoming a Typist
Passing my Driving Test first time
Travelling the world
Meeting a special someone
So those were my goals when I was young…
and I have ticked them all off…
I remember as I achieved each of these goals,
being absolutely gobsmacked that me Helen Lingard
Could achieve these goals….even getting pregnant even though it was something
I wanted from a very young age
How Proud was I…
Well Not actually
It wasn’t until a few years ago when I was feeling,
as we often do
‘God I haven’t achieved anything’
That I actually realised
“OMG Helen – You have Achieved Everything
You Wanted To..”
It was such a Revelation....
Several years ago – I went through a Very stressful time…
one of my sisters had passed away suddenly back in the UK
(I emigrated to NZ about 20 years ago)
My job was disestablished and I was offered a new job which i
n reality I was just not in the right space to do it
What happened over the next year was something no body should go
through, however I have no regrets…
It made me the person I am today – you can read about it
So I came out of that experience, stronger and wiser…
what helped was that the year before, I had got into the Secret….
that was to change my life…
So I left my job and decided to do a degree – Why – not for the right reasons….
I wanted to feel an equal with my sisters,
I was the only one without a degree..
So I started to put all the steps in place to do my Degree – In Psychology
I used to be a nurse and Always loved people..so why not psychology
However, I wasn’t feeling the joy that I should be feeling
In fact I was feeling very stressed -
why? because I was a single mum and I could see doing a degree
was going to cost me a Lot of Money -
I had no support here – All my family were back in the UK….
I was sitting on my bed one day – talking to my daughter, when she said
‘Mum why are you stressed about this’
‘Why are you doing this’
It was then that I decided this was not for me….
Then I had a lighbulb moment…
I found myself doing some google research and came up with
and I have never looked back…
I started to invest in courses, Audios….
and then I found this business….
I found my second home….
What is the best thing about Personal Development…
that ‘Woo Hoo’ stuff that people who don’t understand call it…
it means that being “different’ being ‘quirkly’ – Yes I’ve been called Both of those…
is Absolutely Fine Here….
You meet people LIke You – People who Love Life, Who Love Helping People
and Don’t Care What People think of them…
We All worry far too much about what people think of us..
Who Cares What people think of you…
We Are All the “Wierd Ones’ here…
if your doing the right thing – if you are treating people well
Does it matter what people think of you?
Its ME… I’m really happy being me…
I have fallen in Love with me over the last few years…
Not easy when you grow up with 0 self esteem and basically flunking school
However, I did scrape through with enough qualifications to achieve my nursing goal
No My happy ever after Relationship didn’t last…
But I know that Everything happens for a reason
So I know that Every thing I have been through
Every challenge I’ve been through and I’ve been through plenty…
I’ve learnt from them and they have made me the person I am now..
Stronger Wiser and Happier than Ever…
I’ve learnt that Laughing at yourself and
with People is Simply the best thing you can do
I have learnt that I have value to give others…
Just because I’m divorced, doesn’t mean I don’t have anything to share with people
Quite the contrary, I have learnt so much from what I have been through…
I have learnt that being Kind is better than being right…
I have learnt to Say Sorry to people and to Let things Go
I have learnt to live life to the fullest
That people matter more than things…
So whats my goal
To achieve Financial Freedom
So I can Travel back to the UK and visit my mum as often as I want to who has been through so much
So I can Travel When I want, to Wherever I want,
With Whom Ever I want and Help Who Ever I want
I want to open an Animal Sanctuary
I want to travel the world inspiring people, including
People who have been Bullied as I have…
People who have had 0 Self Esteem as I had..
Im now going through another stage in my life…
over the last 14 months I lost my fur baby…. which just broke my heart
And over the year I have said goodbye to my son who has just left home…
So Im Free to be Me…
Am I scared, Yes certainly…
Am I excited, Oh Absolutely….
Yes My Children will always be my children and I will be here for them
But I also have a life to Live….
I’ve just returned from a month with mum, also saying goodbye to my
who has taken a job in the UK for a year – followed
by a week in the US where I really pushed myself out of my comfort zone…
So whose coming along with me?
So thats Me and my life – In Summary !! :)
I look forward to hearing about you and yours…
Whether You are a Single Parent
You have been Bullied
Or You are Just “different’ ‘Wierd’ or One of the Crazy Ones
Who is Crazy enough to Think You can Make a Difference in this world
Before I go, I just want to share a very special little story with you..
Last year, I took a trip back to the UK and travelled up to see my Aunty
(on the right in this picture)
She was very sick, although maybe you don’t notice in this picture
I had always been able to talk to my Aunty, really nitty gritty stuff…..
We talked during my visit, really talked and I shared some of this story
with my aunt and my mum
About me always feeling left out and different, my Aunty said
‘I Knew It, I Knew it’
Sadly my Aunt passed away in November,
but I am so glad I got to spend that time with her….and she ‘got me’ and
understood where I was coming from ….That was Soo good to know !!