Things Are Not Always What They Seem

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Things Are Not Always What They Seem

 

Do you realise that people are rarely as you see them….

 

We tend to look at someone and say ‘look at her, look at the life she has, how lucky she is, how beautiful she is, surrounded by people’…

I remember many years ago - after going through a relationship break up - a relationship that I had thought would last for the rest of my life…… I would go out with my children and look at all these ‘happy families’…..wishing I was one of them..

What I have learnt since is that Everyone - Absolutely Everyone has their own battle….

 

I have some lovely friends - who on the outside have a very busy social life, a lovely partner…lovely children, so seemingly from the outside, people would think ‘what a perfect’ life’….

 

However, knowing these friends as I do - I know that they too have battles….

 

I was having dinner with a friend the other day and I related an article I had read about Elle McPherson (famous Australian model)…and how when she was young how insecure she had been…..my friend laughter (incidentally my friend is Also gorgeous)…..

‘Yeh Right’…..

We assume because someone has what we perceive as ‘beauty’ maybe money….a loving partner, family - that they have it all. 

 

No - It all Starts Within 

You know you can be surrounded by people, and still be lonely….

How do you cure that?  - By learning to love yourself

Learning to Love Your Own Company, because sometimes its good for you ! :)

 

I was watching an interview with Stephen Fry (British Comedian and actor) the other day…who was great friends with the late Great Robin Williams…..

 

In Stephen’s words

‘He was able to make millions happy, just not  himself’……

 

Being happy and Content, sounds Simple..but it takes Work for some people....

It can take Years to work on your mindset to achieve that level of Happiness…..

 

A book I have read Psycho Cybernetics…..written by Maxwell Waltz…… who was a Plastic Surgeon….

 

He realised through his work - that whilst some people could have a new nose and be very happy, other people, it didn’t matter what corrections he made to their face/body - they still were not happy..because happiness comes from Within…..

 

I have had friends  - who were not beautiful, not slim but they were happy, they were bubbly and they had lots of friends and never had a problem with boyfriends…Why….

 

Inner Beauty - Inner Happiness…..

Many years ago I worked as a Nurse in a Plastic Surgery ward....

Plastic surgery differs from Cosmetic Surgery in that Plastic surgery is done on patients who have a disfigurment or an accident....

I remember one particular patient, we shall call him Alan....Alan was a young man who had been involved in a Chemical explosion....he had his face blown off...

his eyes were gone, he had part of his nose left and he had his mouth...but most of his hair, his face was gone.  Alan was an Amazing young man and all the staff loved looking after him.... Alan was a long term patient because having that type of surgery was an on-going process.  

Now I don't imagine for one minute that Alan was without his battles....however he dealt with it with such amazing fortitude and people like him always inspire me, much like Jon from yesterday...

Look at Katie - having worked with Alan and other patients who were the victims of terrible accidents, I followed Katie....

Katie was a young beautiful women who knew she was beautiful and led the 'party' style life, until she had acid thrown in her face by an ex boyfriend... read her story here

Katie became a changed person following her 'accident' and dedicated her life to helping others who like her, were disabled, deformed.... and now after many many operations, she has gone on to meet someone and have a baby....

So what is the lesson we can learn here….

Don't judge people, don't assume that because someone 'seemingly' has it all, that they are Happy 

Be Kind to Everyone, regardless of how they are acting...

Start to work on your Mindset…. 

Learn to Love Yourself Just the Way You Are

Be happy With You….

Appreciate What You Have....

Start to Look in the Mirror and Fall In Love with YOU...

Be Good to Yourself...

Remember, Everyone has Their Own Battle....and Things Are Rarely What They Seem

be Happy..:)

~Helen~

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Life is full of challenges...we ALL go through them, some more than others....

What You Can Achieve When You Push Through Those Challenges

there is a great saying

'its not what happens to you,

its the way you handle it

and that is so true...

We have Cristina Munoz who 'despite' being stuck on bed rest, still manages to write a blog and build a team of hundreds AND inspire people....

Whenever I go through challenges, especially with my business, I think of Edison

10,000 Attempts - to invent the lightbulb, Can You Imagine trying 9,000 + times...how despondent you would feel?

 Seriously.... I mean how many people would have kept going but look at the light bulb now !!!

me with Cristina when she managed to get to Orlando last year

What You Can Achieve When You Push Through Those Challenges

Then there is this guy - Just amazing....

I didn’t see him coming, and I don’t remember much about the accident, but I do remember being pulled out of my minivan with my shirt on fire. The front end of the van was torn off, gasoline was everywhere, and my legs were broken in 14 places.

I was just blown away when I saw this blog

This guy gave up everything and moved to Mexico...

Great you may think - until you read the rest of his blog.....

Meet Jon

How to Quit Your Job, Move to Paradise and Get Paid to Change the World

and be prepared to Change Your Mind about what you Can Achieve.....

Helen

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Building Relationships On Facebook - Part II with Jessica Higdon

 

So on building your business, one of the most important things to do is to connect with people, build relationships..... People Join people they Know Like And Trust....

This training does just that - its about connecting with people, getting to know them and HELP them....

Jessica Higdon, one half of the Power Couple, Ray and Jessica, did a great training, 

Here I share some nuggets she shared...

Jessica has built a six figure business helping people with these stragies...so enjoy

This takes Consistent action on Facebook....

Every day...

3 posts of imagery - lifestyle

2 posts of random questions

2 posts of great resources

Connect with people

When people share or Like your posts.....

Send them a message....

Hi, noticed that you are sharing my stuff,

and just wanted to say thanks, how did you find my profile….

Make your message personal- Be Yourself :)

Using their first name, Look at their profile first

Do you have something in common, do they seem positive?

hobbies? someone I want to work with?

(If they have lots of games or only photos of themselves, I retreat!!)

 keep your first message link free? (I was sending people great blog posts by others..so thats a No No !! :)

Building Relationships On Facebook  - Part II with Jessica Higdon

Common leading questions

what do you do?

how long have you been doing it for?

you must be pretty happy then…

have you ever considered doing anything else

whats stopping you?

if I could show you something would you be interested in taking a look

what stops you from leaving your job

what stops you from doing your hobby

do you have kids, how old are they?

how many hours a week do you work

Closing Questions.....

based on what you’ve shared with me I think you

may want to take a look at what I do, I don’t know if

the business is a fit for you but I think you would love

the product…

This may or may not be for you but…

So there you go, simple huh....just connect, build a relationship, get to know them and Then see if its for them. It Really is just as you would build a relationship off line...finding out if someone is happy with what they currently do and if not....

Thats Ok.......

So what you waiting for...GO...

oh and here is the training...be quick..not sure how long it will be up for

~helen~

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What IPAS2 Can Do For You

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What IPAS2 Can Do For You

Sometimes you hear from someone and what they say hits you between the eyes...

This was the case with the call I heard this morning from the wonderful Elya Matthews....

Elya is brand new to this business, but she has 'got it' almost overnight...

Whatever you are doing, you have to hav,

Passion, Belief, Conviction...

As Elya says 'its not about the money' its about Helping Others to Get What They Want....

Elya has this and it shines through in this interview.

So what is stopping You?

This system is Simple, after the initial set up...

Come say hi to me on facebook...

Even better come and say hi to me after joining here...

Helen

10 Ways to Remove that Negative Feeling and Feel Good Again

I was inspired to do this blog because I know People go through struggles….challenges, including me !!

We ALL go through them….at some stage, believe me No one is excluded from this, its part of life.....

be it depression/ or just a ‘bad time’….

However, there are things we can do to turn it around...

and when you are going through these challenges, 

We Need All the Help We Can get….

So here are some things to help you get through those challenges

  1. Exercise - Exercise raises your seratonin levels and thus makes you feel happier….  

    I personally go to Bikram Yoga, even when I don't feel like going and I can Guarantee, I feel Sooo much better after it...go for a walk, do whatever works for you - But Do it !! :) Yes thats an Order !!

     
  2. Laughsearch on youtube or put on some funny films, comedy shows and laugh as much as you can. 
    Laugh at Yourself Too....the day I started to do this, my life changed for the better...

     
  3. Spend time with Positive People…..People who lift you
    (Avoid anyone who is negative…Seriously walk way, make ANY excuse but remove yourself from them....

     
  4. Ask yourself Powerful Questions
    Very often, we say 'why am I feeling so bad'?
    Well as the Great Tony Robbins says, you will get exactly what you ask for...so by asking 'How Can I feel Great, What Do I need to do to feel good - you will get Better Answers...


    You WILL Get Answers....
     
  5. Make yourself do ThingsTake Action, as hard as this is when you are feeling down, its the BEST thing you can do - I speak from Experience!
     
  6. Write 50 Plus things you have to be Grateful for.....Really this helps...
     
  7. Give and Get Hugs - Sounds simple but from experience this really helps and there Really is evidence, that Hugs help you
     
  8. Give Kindness to others - it really does wonders....makes YOU feel better plus the recipient
     
  9. Try the Mirror excercise, yes I know some people find this hard, but it really does wonders for you in the long run.  Stand in front of the mirror each morning and tell yourself 'I love you'...you can even add to this by saying 10 things you love about yourse, 10 things your proud of yourself for and 10 things your going to achieve this month.   However starting with 'I love you' may be just enough to be going on with (I first heard this in with Lisa Nichols, No Matter What).
     
  10. Lastly but not least, Talk to someoneWhilst its not good to talk 'repetitively' about your problems as that just reiterates them, however it is good to talk to 'someone' about how you feel, a trouble shared Really is a trouble halved.....

    NB - if your troubles are Really tough, then do seek professional help, whether thats a doctor or alternative therapy, but do know you are not Alone...:)

10 Ways to Remove that Negative Feeling and Feel Good Again

Remember You Can Change this -

You have the Power Within You,

as hard as that feels sometimes...

 

So I hope this has helped you, please share with others, and I know there will be Others, there always are....

 

Helen

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PS I found some of the material for this post here

 

 

 

 

 

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