Someone Trying to Squash your Dreams

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Someone Trying to Squash your Dreams?

I've had a few conversations lately with people whose husbands/partners etc are giving them a hard time about spending money or their business...

It's understandable... your dream perhaps arn't theirs...

or you haven't involved them in it, because frankly, you have doubts yourself... 

You Really want to succeed but your frankly, a bit scared...

That is Absolutely normal....

I laugh at myself actually...

20+ years ago I did a bungy and then nearly 4 years ago I did a sky dive...

They thrilled me,  Really!! ~ the Biggest Buzz Ever

yet some things in this business scare the C**p out of me !!

Crazy huh..Yes I know...

So what do you do when you are 'following' your passion?

your dream?

and your partner/husband/friends are not supporting you

in fact they are bringing you down...

the stress levels are shooting through through the roof....

and quite frankly

'I don't need this' !! :)

Well there are a few things you can do...

Include them in your dream, Your Big Audacious Goal

...share with them what you want to achieve, talk to them about it...

If you light the fire enough in their belly too, then they will be Right on Board with you.

Stick to the 30.30.30 - this will Empower you, Motivate you, Change your Mindset... by reading/watching and empowering yourself with Positive Material for 30 days...

Give them the time they deserve.

Ensure you include your partner/friends in your day to day activites.  Ensure you spend some time with them before or after you work on your business, so they don't feel neglected. 

There is nothing worse for getting your partners back up or friends for that matter, than shutting them out, whilst you work on your 'dream'.

Reward them when you start to have that success.. treat them to a weekend away or a meal out - or something so that they see they will get some benefit as you succeed.

Remember this is Your Dream! 

Don't Let Anyone Else Rain on Your Parade....

I have heard people share their stories - where by their partner didn't want to travel so they haven't travelled.  Yes its a tough one, when your loved one and you want different things but you don't want to be one of those people in the grave yard or on your death bed, wishing or wondering 'what might have been'???

Get them to one of the events...getting to these conferenes and masterminding with other Positive people who have Succeeded..is Sooo empowering..and it makes you realise (and your partner) that 'they' that is 'the rich and famous' are frankly no different to you or I..really they are not...

I've heard many stories, where as soon as the partner got to an event, then everything changed....

Get them to talk to a 'converted' other half of someone else who was skeptical like them....

Seriously - if you have a BIG AUDACIOUS Goal

Don't Let Anyone Or Anything Stand In Your Way!

Do Everything in your power to Make It Happen...

When you break through those Challenges and Achieve your goals

and if your detractors care about you enough - they will be right beside you

Cheering you on..

~Helen~

So what is your goal, Please tell me the comments, 

What You Want to Achieve, I'd love to hear yours..

 

Come say hi to me on facebook - I''d love to get to know you...

And come join us and we will help you achieve those dreams

 

What Do You Want And Why

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What Do You Want And Why

You Need To Ask Yourself These Questions

I'm going to be totally honest here...

I'm very happy, I have a lovely life... 

I have two gorgeous children

A loving family

But I know I have 'gremlins' from my past

that come up from time to time

We ALL do...

Someone will say something to me

and its as if I were back in that classroom

Where I felt so 'small' and I'm no longer

the Strong, Empowered Helen Lingard

That everyone knows... 

I'm 'Helen Lingard' the shrinking violet

that I was 30 years ago...

So when I went through this excercise

At first I thought

"its not working'

But then as I followed the instructions and dug deeper

I started to feel my face crumble and the tears come...

Its Powerful and its Scary but its Sooo good for you...

Here is the Hang out and I've put the questions below..

but Do them Whilst you watch the Hang out

 thats where the Power is

Creating Your Well Informed Outcome

So think of your goal, what you want to achieve in life....

We think we want things for a certain reasons,

but when we really dive deep, we Find out what we REALLY want...

1. What Do You Really want? I mean REALLY want??

2. How Will You Know When You Have Achieved This Goal?

 3. What Evidence will there be? bank balance/ how will you know?

4. What resources do you need to achieve this?

5.What do I need to do to make this happen

6. Can I achieve this Alone, or do I need other people to make my goal happen?

7. What are the advantages and Disadvantages of achieving my goal

8. What does achieving this goal mean for me?

9. When you have achieved this outcome what will this mean for you?

Keep asking yourself..

Each time you write an answer down ask yourself the same question, No 9

Ask Again

Ask Again - You will have a shift on the third, fourth or fifth time.

Keep asking until you get your answer... which will be a RELIEF...

A Breakthrough....

Good Huh?

oh and this is Power of the "Tribe" I'm part of... 

Empowering,

Supporting and Helping

You Achieve Your goals

Want to Join us?

Talk Soon

~Helen~

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Come say Hi to me On Facebook...love to get to know you

I don't bite Promise !! :)

Who Are You Selling?

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Who Are You Selling?

In life and in business, we are Selling Ourselves, so we need to be our authentic self, our True Self.. and Yes many people, including me struggle with this for a while....

And Yes we ALL go through the 'what will people, think, say about me?'

So last night, a group of approximately 20 people who live in the Wellington area (New Zealand) all got together for a local meet up...

We made our way to Lower Hutt, from Johnsonville,  just 20 minutes away from Johnsonville, to meet a group of like minded people, who had decided to 'break away from the matrix' like us...

Whilst I personally love travelling, travelling 20 minutes to Lower Hutt, to meet like minded people, certainly beats the long but well worth doing journey across the world, I usually do every 3 months...

I cannot tell you how wonderful it was to meet locally, our 'colleagues' in Empower... 

As we got acquainted, people started to say

'I have nothing to share...I'm really skeptical about this'...

I was too - many of us are, but I also saw how this business was helping people, saw the wonderful community that is here...

As Dave Wood, the founder says

'We are A transformational Community,

disguised as a Business Opportunity'

You don't have to be here for very long, to see how passionate this community is....

I am one of those people, who though I have been around 'a while' I was just putting my toes in the water - yes I was blogging, because I have blogged for years but I wasn't really 'immersing' myself in the business, that is until about a year ago.

As we started to go around the room, sharing our stories and why we had joined Empower..we soon realised, that everyone had a great story to share..

challenges they have been through.... stories that lots of other people have been through too...

Miscarriages

Teachers working long hours 

Real Estate agents working crazy hours

People who had to sell their house

Falling out with family members because of decisions you make.

Business partnerships going sour

and losing ALL their money and just been left with debt.

Chefs/cooks working crazy hours....

They were stories, that I had heard before from the calls and going along to the events....

Many of the leaders here have been where these people were

Broke,

Bankrupt

and yet through Empower they had come back from the 'brink' and in fact many were now Millionaires or close to (income disclaimer)

One person shared her story, without realising she had more in

common with David Wood than she realised....

she had also lived in a car -

just as Dave Wood has !!

however, she hadn't listened to the call where Dave shares that...

As we talked about ourselves, I realised how much these people had in common with me.....

I like to break the rules...not because Im out to cause trouble, just that I care more about helping people, then I do 'red tape'....

We All want to make a difference....

We talked about Our Whys...

A strong theme was Freedom....

Both for ourselves and others...

To be successful in this business, 

You need to have a Strong Enough WHY...

As people told us their why, I saw the tears come to their eyes, when they talked about their familes, the struggles they had been through and how much they wanted to reclaim their family, own their house again or travel.....

This is the Sort of Why you

Need to succeed in this business..

Everyone in the room had a reason to Persevere, to be persistence...to do Whatever It Takes to Achieve their goals...

I learnt what I have learnt in this business

No one is Any Better than you - they have just been around longer, maybe studied more....

You are Selling Yourself - No Matter What You Have been Through

There is Someone, (thousands) out there who relate to you...

Whatever you have been through, they have been through and seeing your story, they will say 

'Oh My God Yes, she/he is telling my story and they got through it, I can too, I need to join them so they can show me'

If you are thinking, 'I can't share my story' thats Ok, we show you, we help you, we inspire you to break out and share your story, and inspire others.... 

I asked people to share their biggest challenges, and one was 

I don't have the money to market....

Ok, some of our most successful people here started without money to market..

ie they used Free Marketing

Building Relationships on Facebook

Doing Videos and posting on Facebook

Sharing other people's success with

'Look this is what my upline

is doing and we will show you how'

You just need to have the belief  

without the belief, people won't believe you either...

So in summing up...

Be Yourself

Be Different

Stand up for what you believe in...

Take Action

Be Persistent

have Belief

and as my friend Michelle said

'you can't go into the Witness protection program and blog'

but in the process, you can help thousands :)

Hope this helps you :)

Please leave your comments and share if you think this can help someone else...

~Helen~

So come join us....

Come say Hi to me On Facebook - I'd love to hear from you

 

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How To Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

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How To Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

Its wonderful when you see people blossom....

I know I have blossomed over the years...

From the Shy Introverted young girl I was 30 years ago...

To the Assertive, 'sometimes' confident personn I am now....

I met this 'young' man several months ago and to my surprise he joined

my business.... hes pretty quiet... and yet when I have read his blogs

I see how much he has to share....

Hes taken the Bull by the horns

and done his first Video...

So proud of you Mathew...

This is Just the Start of Your Wonderful Journey...

Be Inspired by Mathew 

Maybe you can Relate to Mathew....

Or me... 

We Can Help you...

Come and Take A Look

 

Helen

How great leaders inspire action

How great leaders inspire action

 

There are very different ideas about what makes a leader, there are people who lead and there are leaders.  At times it can be easily forgotten, but they work in different ways.  One may work for money, and the other may work for passion.  However, earlier today I found a Ted talk from a man named Simon Sinek who was talking about how great leaders create big results and how they think differently from everybody else. 

He talks about how great leaders work from their why and not from their products, they do what they do because they are passionate and through their passion they inspire others to acheive great things too.  I have certainly struggled with what do people mean by "what is your why", "why do you do what you do".  The reason being is exactly what this man discusses in the video is that it always feels uncomfortable to admit your why, most people would work from, what is the purpose of what they are doing and then how do they do it. 

I highly recommend you watch this video whether you are just starting out in creating your business or the experienced millionaire entrepreneur's.  To help the beginners to understand the effect of finding something you are passionate in, to share that passion.  Also for the experienced business people to go back to their roots as to why they are doing what they are doing, and why that is so important to creating great results in your team. 

I want to leave you with a quote that is from Simon Sinek that I want all of you to think about, especially in creating the ripple effect in changing society.  The quote goes like this "people don't buy what you do, people buy why you do it."

People don't buy what you do, they buy why you do it

There are so many ways and examples of leaders who have created the ripple effect from people following them for what they believed in.  People such as Mahatma Gandhi, Martin luther king, Steve Jobs and many more.  However what is important to remember is people followed them for why they were doing what they were doing and the people believed, and followed. 

What is great about today is that their is so many opportunity to help lead people to action and create a ripple effect in your life and their's.  That opportunity is right here at Empower network, currently changing the lives of millions around the world, and support from venterians in the business makes you never feel alone.  If this is something you want to do click on the link, sign up and lets start creating a better world. 

 

 

Do you want inspire action and become an effective leader click the link and jump on board with this great group of people.  www.workwithmathewgale.com .

If you want a chance to get to know each other first I am on

facebook: www.facebook.com/gale.mathew

twitter:  https://twitter.com/mathewgale2

 

Mathew gale

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Do You Bring Energy Into The Room

 A Tribute To Two Very Special People

My Aunt did......

Its been a tough 24 hours...

I was lying in bed yesterday, listening to a book - when at the same time, I got a message on Facebook and at the same time my phone was ringing...

Both message bought messages that two Very special People had passed away....

One of those people was my beloved Aunt....

My Aunty was very special.... 

She was one of those people who had 'hundreds' of friends...

She talked to everyone wherever she went...

She was your 'typical'  Welsh lady....

She moved from Wales to Yorkshire to be nearer her only child 

several years ago.....Leaving behind ALL her friends back in Wales...

Yet in no time at all, she had made more friends again...

She was given her diagnoses 2 years ago  

I remember her telling my mother (her sister) when she was told

'They have given me 2 years,

 in 2 years I could be gone anyway'.....

She made the most of those 2 years...

I was fortunate I was 'home' in June and my mother and I made

the journey from Wales to Yorkshire...to see my Aunt 

During the time we were there

We Laughed, We Ate, We Talked

and We Visited as much of

Yorkshire as we could

Pubs - We ate and drank at various pubs - It was just brilliant!

My Aunt had made some great friends with her neighbours and I met just about All of them in the short time we were there...

Some of them were like family to her...she was that sort of person...

My Aunt really did bring energy into the room, each pub we went into,

she was a regular (even at 86!)...they ALL knew her 

Over the years, I have had many conversations with my Aunt...

Honest conversations, amusing conversations.....

Several years ago, she made the trip all the way to Wales with her son 

my dad's Celebration of Life. Not an easy journey for her...

I had returned home with my children for this occasion.

She piled her plate full with food (I did tell you she loved her food)!!

and came to talk to me....

She looked me in the eyes,  smiled leant over to me and said; 

'Those Are NOT your Real Eyelashes Helen !'....

She was the Only one to comment and yes I had had eyelash extentions.

She would Always  notice things others wouldn't and she would mention them...good and bad !! :)

She was quite amazing.... 

She also loved to write and had written a couple of books, she wrote for magazines... had I started this business years ago, I would have got her blogging....:)

Whilst I am sad, I take comfort in knowing she has joined her husband who passed a few years ago, she also joined my dad and my sister who have all passed on.....

Then there was Amy..... 

Oh what can I say about Amy....

I shared so much with Amy - she was passionate about the fur babies too

I am in two minds about people 'passing' (I can't say the word death, not sure why)...early/too young... I do believe that Everything happens for a reason...but I also struggle with 'why'...and so thats how I feel about Amy.... why....

Only last week, I held a webinar and she was messaging me how good I looked, how well I did - Always supportive....

We shared a love of Fur Babies... we Adored them....

One of my goals is to have an Animal Sanctuary and in one of Amy's last blogs she spoke of a goal very much in tune with me..

Watch Amy's last blog/vlog here...

 

.... always very strange to see people speak when they have gone'....

I met Amy earlier this year and she just 'shone'.. Always smiling..

Always so positive,

Always Soo passionate about the 'fur babies'.....

She bought an energy into the room also....

So I do know that both My Aunt and Amy are at peace now....

Laughing and Joking with those who have gone before them...

Surrounded by people and animals in 'Utopia'.....

looking at us all enjoying our lives....

This was shared this morning by my good friend John and for me encapsulates so much of how we feel when someone we love passes on....

So - Life is Short.... Enjoy 

Take You Energy, wherever you Go 

Share it With the World

Share Your Value 

Share your Laughter 

Your Passions - Your Love - Your Inspiration....

Make A Difference....

Just as Both my Aunt and Amy did...

I would love it if you can join us and Share your Value with the world...

See you soon

 

~Helen~

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